There are many ways that you can tell whether your better half is cheating or not. Just follow these simple guidelines:
** You have to go with your gut instincts. If you feel that there might be something wrong, odds are you might be right so do not ignore those feelings.
** If there is a sudden change in your partner's routine, heads up! Keep a record on exactly when your partner goes to work, goes for lunch, goes to the gym and whatever regular routines they follow at work. The routine may vary due to the work that your spouse does, so sometimes it might be hard to tell. One telling sign is finding that he or she is going on more work trips, or working later hours than usual. Call your spouse's place of work when he or she is supposed to be there, and see if he or she picks up.
** Ask your spouse why his routine has changed. While you are doing this watch their eye movement. If they cannot look you in the eye as you are looking into theirs then that is another cheating spouse sign. Usually when people lie they tend to not make eye contact, or fidget as they are telling the lie. They come to focus on an object that is around them rather than looking you straight in the eye. It is as if they are hiding something.
** Look out for unusual behavior. When they answer their cell phone, do they often flee somewhere out of earshot? Do they go on strange or unusual outings and insist on you staying behind? Is their reaction odd or suspicious when you confront them about these outings?
** Watch your credit card bills. Are there any charges you do not recognize, such as for restaurants, hotels, and other recreational activities? Confront them about these charges. If their answer is elusive, unclear or outright suspicious, that's definitely a bad sign.
** Watch your phone bills. See if there is a number on there that you do not recognize that your spouse may have called. If you can, call this number, and explain that you got this number off of your phone bill, and was wondering where it came from. You can always hang up or say you got the wrong number. If you ask questions, sometimes you will get the truth, and sometimes you will not. Listen for clues that might make it seem like something is going on.
** Be straightforward. Ask your husband or wife if they have been cheating on you. Most will lie, but some will tell the truth. Again you have to watch their eyes and listen to their voices. Watch to see how angry they get while doing so. If they go ballistic, or become angrier than usual, it's very possible they're lying.
* Gut feelings count! A gut feeling tells you something is wrong. Your lifetime of experience gives you more wisdom than you think.
* Your spouse seems different or happier for no apparent reason.
* Your spouse has started to let you win some arguments.
* Your spouse starts lavishing gifts on a "friend".
* Your spouse seems to have an unusual spring in his or her step, but there's no drastic improvements in your sex life.
If you have confirmed that your spouse is really cheating on you, remember that the longer you let this happen without calling him or her on it, the less he or she will respect you. If the infidelity just drags on for a long time, you will probably end up accepting a de-facto'open' relationship' just like Demi and Ashton!